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07-07-2008, 11:20 AM Min. C. Chambliss Joined on 09-18-2007 Plainfield, New Jersey, United States Posts 4 Saved now and yet still married I am married to my former wife and yet I am in a committed relationship in which we  have children together. We have been together for 14 years and I recently accepted Christ as my lord and personal saviour  and  as a saved man I am convicted daily about my relationship. I realize what 's needed and that is to get a divorce as soon as possible and marry the woman who I currently live with but my main concern is  do I move out until the divorce is finalized or do I stay?  If I move out my children who I have raised may feel that I am abandoning them  or that there mother and I are separating. We would have been married a long time ago but  I was delivered from a  12 year crack cocaine addiction which caused me to  be very irresponsible  . Please help me with real biblical non-judgemental advise, thank you God bless you    Report

07-08-2008, 8:40 AM changemercy Joined on 07-03-2008 Posts 7 Re: Saved now and yet still married So I can understand, are you statingyou are currently with your new mate but have been with former wife for years? Also, did you meet this person while om crack or after the dliverance part? Is your wife of 14 years saved or was she with you doing the times of the drug usage? I'm thinking the woman you want to be with is the woman who is saved and you want to reconcile.    Report

07-09-2008, 4:17 PM Min. C. Chambliss Joined on 09-18-2007 Plainfield, New Jersey, United States Posts 4 Re: Saved now and yet still married My wife and I are separated and have been for approximately 15 years but during the course of the separation I developed a relationship with a young lady and then approximately 2 years into the relationship I developed a crack cocaine addiction. I have been with the young lady now going on 14 years but now I am saved and delivered but I have yet to get a divorce from my first wife and I currently live with this woman now and I don't know what to do move out, discontinue intimate relations, reconcile with my legal wife, I simply dont know what to do but I am daily convicted by this situation so I'm reaching out to a saint who with prayer can give me guidance, God Bless you and thank you for responding     Report

07-10-2008, 8:56 AM changemercy Joined on 07-03-2008 Posts 7 Re: Saved now and yet still married I beleive the conviction is the Holy Spirit telling you to not be intimate with the young lady because that's fornication and adultery. Now that you are saved God has shed some light on the situation and is giving you wisdom on what to do. In order for you and the young lady's relationship and possible marriage to be in right standing with God, it's best to legalize the separation with first wife. Don't continue in the situation without peace. Pray and ask God if reconciliation is His will and possible then ask God if its time for you and the young lady to make the next step. His word says If any man lacks wisdom ask of God.    Report

08-15-2008, 11:44 AM Miss Brandy Joined on 07-09-2006 Posts 1 Re: Saved now and yet still married Bro Chambliss: You are in a tough situation, but nothing too hard for God...if you listen to Him! You have asked for "biblical non-judgemental advice" and I give you nothing but the Word of God...after that you must take heed! Jesus talks about divorce in the New Testament and prophets discuss it in the Old Testament. New Testament: "And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, Whoseoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her." Mark 10: 10,11 "It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give here a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you, that whoseover shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery." Matthew 5: 31,32 "And unto the married, I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband; but if she depart; let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." 1 Corinthians 7:10,11 Also read Romans 7:2,3 I'll be praying for you...in the end your ultimate concern keep on God...you've got to work out YOUR own soul's salvation...your children, your wife, or the other woman can't speak for you...just keep God's Word as the final say! And He will work everythingelse out! Be blessed brother.    Report

12-10-2008, 2:58 PM Aariom Jene Pope Stembridge Joined on 12-10-2008 Akron, Ohio, United States Posts 3 Re: Saved now and yet still married Hello Sir, It appears that you should pray and make sure that you are doing the right thing by leaving that relationship with your children involved. It is very important to know because. You weren't thinking clearly when 12yrs ago and their may be room for reconciliation. Be careful. I don't recommend living at the new relationship home simply because you aren't married. Remain faithful until you are released. God Bless, Aariom Jene Stembridge    Report

12-12-2008, 3:26 PM Bible Heroes Ministry Joined on 09-17-2008 Texas, United States Posts 6 Re: Saved now and yet still married Okay, being a Woman of G-d and a Minister and a mother of a son, plus a deliverance minister, I think I can figure this out...(meaning the prayer request) What you are saying is the woman you are living with, you have CHILDREN by her, but legally married to your soon to be Ex-wife. Now, if I have it right so far, don't stop me... Stay in the house with the NEW WIFE and CHILDREN. Finish your legal work. Marry your SECOND WIFE. Woosh! Then receive bibical counseling for you and the whole family... Amen? In Yeshua's Mighty Name, Esther (Licensed and Ordained Deliverance Minister) Bible Heroes Ministry, NonProfit Organization Judeo/Christian    Report

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