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07-14-2009, 11:30 AM minmus76@yahoo.com Joined on 04-28-2006 Posts 1 Both Parties willing to divorce I know that God hates divorce, but what do you do when you are in a situation  where the husband  is willing  to divorce and the wife is trying to stick it out.  About two years my husband had an affair. We began to work on our marriage, but thing just seem to get worst.  I did forgive my husband, but my husband has some interstuggles that he is dealing with and it is causing a strain on our marriage.  Love is definetly not the issue, we both love each other dearly, but I believe he is trying to push me away. He is trying to do the right thing, but does not want to continue to hurt me.  To be honest, I am tired of fighting, don't know if I have enough in me to continue on with our marriage.  I rather just separate and we be good friend.  Need prayer and help!!! How do you continue to   stand in the gap for a person when they are unsure of  what they want themselves.    Report

07-14-2009, 11:31 PM daughter of glory Joined on 07-08-2008 Posts 2 Re: Both Parties willing to divorce My first response to your question is to scream we can't. That's not our role nor responsibilty, it's GOD's. I'm quite sure you have heard the saying if you love something then let it go, if it's love then it will come back to you. It's true that God hates divorce, but your husband already committed the sin that warrants it...... My question to you is How well do you love yourself? I'm a product of divorce and have been that way for 2 years now and my circumstances were somewhat like yours except I was being accused of having affair (which I was not having) but because of some issues going on within him you could not tell him otherwise and like you things did get worse but being the woman that I am I wanted this to work no matter the mental and emotional drain it's taking on me. I thank God and my pastor for helping me see my error. It's not your job nor your responsibilty it's whose. My sister I'm not telling you to leave your husband nor divorce him. I still believe in love and marriage and encourage anyone to make it work if you can but as donnie m. says after you done all you can.......... I heard a message one day my pastor says you don't have to like everybody in order to love everybody, you don't have to live with everybody to love everybody and you certainly don't love them more than they like you. We are the head and not the tail my sister. My prayers and heart go out to you and with a leap of faith may you make the right decision.    Report

07-15-2009, 7:28 PM God's Precious Gift Joined on 05-14-2009 Wichita, Kansas, United States Posts 2 Re: Both Parties willing to divorce I have two questions for you. 1. Is your husband saved? 2. Are you equally yoked with him? Please think long and hard on the second question. Yes God does hate divorce, But my beloved sister; God would not want you in a marriage that he has not put togeather either. The prayers of the rightous availeth much; and it doesn't take much if you are trusting God for an answer. God loves you and he will perfect all things which concern you. I can not say leave him or, divorce him, but consider my second question and, I will be praying for you and your family.    Report

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