Re: Should christians date non-christians?

Should Christians Date Non-Christians?

Should christians date non-christians?

Nicole071 05-27-2008, 10:22 AM
What is the reason we shouldnt everyone else does what they want. i guess we are suppose to be alone forever.

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Charles Rivers 05-29-2008, 10:59 PM

I think what most of the people here wanted to tell you was be careful. You see I have helped thousands of relationships over a decade and I can tell you a couple of key points. If a person is more spiritual they will want to convert their spouse to be the same. If a spouse is more sexual love based they will want to convert their spouse to the same. This subject of being, "Equally Yoked" is one in which allows you to take the sting out of an otherwise beautiful relationship. I find most times but not in all cases your relationship start will be driven by whatever state you find yourself in when you meet someone.

Good luck on your journey in finding your best mate. Also I hope you are enjoying the weather in Clarksville. I used to live there myself when I was in the military many years ago.

Sincerely,

Charles Rivers

Author Bio: Charles Rivers is the author of, "How to Become Your Spouse’s Best Friend," "How to Get the Most in Marriage," "The Good Marriage Maintenance Kit," "Heart of the Marriage," He founded and teaches the course "Happily Ever After" to couples in need of relationship rejuvenation. His heartfelt advice on relationships and marriage has been sought after by magazines, radio and television. He has been married to his lovely wife for the last twenty one years.

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APOSTLE48 06-08-2008, 9:40 PM
I SPEAK FROM EXPERIENCE GOD DOES NOT WANT US TO BE ALONE BUT THE SCRIPTURE CLEARLY TELLS US WHAT DOES LIGHT HAVE IN COMMON WITH DARKNESS AND WHAT DOES THE DEVIL HAVE IN COME WITH GOD WHEN A BELIVER IS DATING A NON BELEIVER IT WILL WEAKEN THE FAITH AND SALVATION OF THE BELIVER AND EVENTUALLY CAUSE THE BELIVER TO DO AND SAY THINGS THAT THEY DON'T NORMAL DO OR SAY SPIRITUALLY

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Taquela 06-13-2008, 11:24 PM
you shouldnt be unequally yoke with anyone. non christian nor christian, because as much as we would like to believe that all christians think and believe the same thing its not true. With all the different dominations all saying they are christians, believe differently. My belief is that if we stay in prayer God will send you your mate who is or will be equally yoked with you. Speaking from experience just because they are christians does not automatically qualify as equally yoked. Now if we would follow true doctrine(which is the Word of God) and not man made doctrines and dominations then I would agree that being with any christian would qualify as being equally yoked

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Esther.*B 06-15-2008, 1:35 AM
I agree! I believe when we delight in His word he will give us the desires of our heart..knowing what is best for us in due season. It is so true that the traditons of men make our Father's word void. Amos 8:11 also tells us that God will send a famine in the land of hearing the word of God..can I get a witness?... When we differ as we will, the truth should strengthen our belief to be able to plant seeds in the simplicity of Christ Jesus and Godly sincerity the word of God or cause us to go back to the word to find out what the Lord is really saying..we will only find out through study, prayer and fasting...May our Father bless us to have ears to hear and eyes to see...amen

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Bro Peter 06-26-2008, 1:32 PM
<BLOCKQUOTE><table width="85%"><tr><td class="txt4"><img src="/CS/Themes/default/images/icon-quote.gif"> <strong>Nicole071 wrote:</strong></td></tr><tr><td class="quoteTable"><table width="100%"><tr><td width="100%" valign="top" class="txt4">What is the reason we shouldnt everyone else does what they want. i guess we are suppose to be alone forever.</td></tr></table></td></tr></table></BLOCKQUOTE>

I think the answer is written in your question you asked why shouldn't we when everyone else does it, we are not everyone else. We are called to be set apart from the world why bring the world into the marraige when God is the most important thing in the Marrige.

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lojnowandforever@hotmail.com 09-07-2008, 1:16 AM
Exactly god will send you your partner if you stay in prayer and they will be equally yoked with you....sometimes couples can start off unequally yoked and then later are converted by their spouse genteel nature...I know that CeCe Winans husband was not a part of the church we she married him and also the good Dr Frederick Price has mentioned that his wife was the spiritual one at first but he was won over by her conversation...look to I Corinthians 12-15 If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. Andthe the woman which hath an husband that beliveth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; else were your children unclean:but are now holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or sister is not under bondage in such cses: but God hath called us to peace. May the lord bless you with peace, understanding, and properity.....

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may1988 11-16-2008, 1:01 AM
From my experiences, I think that christian should date christian , because when yyou date someone who is a non believer, or believe in god but just don't bother to follow god's rules, you run into all kinds of problems with the relationship.In this time that we live in, the devil come to seek and destroy. I was in a relationship with a guy who i loved very much, He was my husband, I had just began to seek god and got saved,during the course of our relationship things started getting bad, the more I got deeper into the lord, the more problems I was having, it got to the point where i wanted my marriage real bad, and i turned my back on god. over the years of dealing with a bad relationship and not giving god any praises, things got rough until I had to turn to god and make some tough decisions, when dealing with a mate that's not a christian it causes you to question God when things are not just working out or getting any better,that cause you to fall and don't care about nothing just that person , and god said he is a jeaously god and not to put man or anything before him. The times we are living in now, christians should stick together and help others who want to be save and know god's love

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the blood of jesus 11-17-2008, 1:17 PM
I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YOU. I SPEAK FROM EXPERIENCE AS WELL. JUST TO PIGGY BACK ON WHAT YOU STATED. THIS PARTICULAR PERSON WANTED ME TO COMPROMISE MY FAITH. GOD FORBID. HOWEVER, BOTH INDIVIDUALS WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO COME INTO A MUTUAL AGREEMENT BECAUSE THEY DON'T SHARE COMMON VISIONS. THAT'S THE PROBLEM WITH CHRISTIANS TODAY. THEY GO OUT OF GODS WILL TRYING TO FIND SOMEONE THAT'S NOT WALKING PARALLEL IN THE SPIRIT WITH THEM. THEREFORE, THEY WIND UP SPLITING. WE'RE NOT SUPPOSE TO BE UNEQUALLY YOKED ANYWAY. YOU'RE RIGHT SIR. LIGHT DOES NOT HAVE COMMUNION WITH DARKNESS. THE CHURCH TRY TO MIX IT. GOD IS A HOLY GOD, THEREFORE ANY RELATIONSHIP OR COMMUNION THAT YOU'RE GOING TO BE IN HAS TO BE HOLY IF THE SPIRIT OF GOD RESIDES IN US. MY QUESTION IS. HOW CAN A BELIEVER WHO HAS THE SPIRIT OF GOD FEEL COMFORTABLE AROUND UNSAVED MEN AND WOMEN? I THINK THAT'S A SPIRITUAL CHECK UP RIGHT THERE. WHEN I EXPERIENCED THESE THINGS, GOD HAD TO WAKE ME OUT OF MY SLUMBER. I DID NOT HAVE KNOWLEDGE THAT IT WAS NOT OK TO BE MADE ONE WITH AN UNBELIEVER. IN CONCLUSION, WHEN TWO PEOPLE JOIN TOGETHER THEIR ONE. GOD CANNOT BE ONE WITH BAAL. SO THAT LEAVES ME TO SAY ARE YOU REALLY SAVED. I BELIEVE ANYONE WHO DOES THIS, THEIR FLESH IS DOMINATE OVER THEIR SPIRIT. AND NEEDS TO BE PUT UNDER SUBJECTION SELAH.

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mikesmommy 07-26-2009, 11:35 AM
when i was younger i didnt think it was important! well 7 years, a divorce, and a 3 year old later,.... i realize if my ex husband and i had both been believers we would have made it. most all of our fights were over porn, lies, and church. he didint and doesnt believe. its hard on me. we are trying to work things out for the child pretty much and it scares me to think my son may grow up not knowin god. i have to be the leader and its hard! i wouldnt give anything for my lil boy but if i could go back i would def make it a priority to find a honest loving christian man!!

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BlessednHappi26 08-17-2009, 11:54 AM
That is a personal decision. If you are a christian and you are dating someone who is not it can lead to alot of opposition on many situations. I encourage everyone to consider both sides, but know it is not easy and may God bless you on this matter.

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HAPPY123 11-14-2009, 10:16 PM
Thank you Charles Rivers for this insight.

Sincerely,

Happy123

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Ecinaj 01-23-2010, 1:55 AM
Well, I was just listening to Pastor Jamal Bryant's message entitled I Had To Date Him. His scripture was Judges 14:1-4 and some scriptures in Judges 15 or 16, refering to Samson and Delilah. Now, according to the scripture, Samson went down to Timnath And he came up, and told his father and his mother, and said, I have seen a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines: now therefore get her for me to wife.

3Then his father and his mother said unto him, Is there never a woman among the daughters of thy brethren, or among all my people, that thou goest to take a wife of the uncircumcised Philistines? And Samson said unto his father, Get her for me; for she pleaseth me well.

4But his father and his mother knew not that it was of the LORD, that he sought an occasion against the Philistines: for at that time the Philistines had dominion over Israel. Pastor Jamal Bryant said because of a relationship like this your discernment is heightened and when you come to yourself and realize you are in trouble, you will pray more. Thoughts about this anyone? He also stated that Delilah put her head in his lap. According to the scriptures, Samson put his head on Delilah's knees. Help!

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rozaydia 02-16-2010, 2:26 PM
No if you have fallen for someone out of your faith you should seek God about it. The word says do not be unequally yoked. God has the best intentions for us if you marry a non christian you are risking your whole walk for a desire of the flesh. Who after reciving grace and favour wants to lose it? Your partner will love you much better if thier heart is first to serve God

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The Propagator 02-23-2010, 11:52 AM

My Dear, you seem conflicted about this matter. I have a virgin daughter 40 years old who has been asking me this question for the past 20 years. Everytime I answer her the same, Are you burning in your desire? (1Cor. 7:9) If so, our heavenly Father will provide you a husband. But, you must keep looking to him for all your needs. I say, in the meanwhile enjoy your singleness. (1Cor. 7: 32,33) Don't let society, church folk, even your own family and friends pressure you into anything contrary to God's will for your life. In the meanwhile, work on your relationship with your heavenly Father. Let him teach you all you need to know about relationship and fellowship. Grow intimate with him in a very personal way. Learn what it means to fall slap happy in love with HIM! When you do you will find your standards and expectation 'off the planet'. So that whoever you yoke up with in this temporal life will have to at least love God more than you or they won't even be able to hang with you very long. Be encouraged.

In Jesus' name