Husband Committed Adultery

 
  1. Mrs. PS
    Newbie
    2   Posts

    I don’t ever post anything, but something has moved me to do so on this morning.

    In advance, many thanks for taking to the time to read this and prayers on the behalf of my family, my children, my husband and me.

    Discovered in April/May 2010 my Husband was having an affair with another teacher who works at his high school.  (SIDE NOTE:  This woman is well known for having affairs and has been moved from school to school because of her habitual affairs and drama she has caused)  I really didn’t notice too much of a change initially, because my attention was focused on caring for my Father-in-law who at the time resided in our home because he was diagnosed with severe Alzheimers/Dementia, hypertension,  diabetes, and host of other ailments.  My Mother-in-law who was like my own mother suddenly passed away last year.  So needless to say it has been a very rough year for the family, especially my 3 sons.  Just losing Mom was hard enough, but to watch Alzheimer’s rob Dad of everything he is was heart wrenching.

    My Husband was never one to handle “tough” situations very well.  He handles situations by simply avoiding them.  So, I noticed my Husband was starting to go on school trips and volunteering for events that he NEVER was interested in his 5 years of teaching at this school.  The only commonality was that SHE was attending.  He says they were just friends, which I knew was a lie.  I confronted them both, but an affair was denied.  Feeling very frustrated and knowing he is lying, I visit a divorce lawyer because I couldn’t tolerate being lied to anymore.  While at the divorce lawyer, a voice spoke very loud to me and told me to leave as this is not what I have in store for you.  I didn’t leave, but continued my conversation with the lawyer. I still heard “leave now” but ignored it again.  Then the lawyer said something, and I looked up and it was a demon laughing at me.  Then I heard “LEAVE< LEAVE< LEAVE”  So I abruptly left, and went to my truck and cried and pray.  I really thought I was going crazy because of the stress of caring for my dad, the kids, my career, managing a home, and all the pain associated with being betrayed.

    My Husband finally packed a suitcase and moved into another house we own.  To my surprise I found out every wicked thing he didn’t do here he was doing such as:  watching pornography, staying out to 4-5 in the morning daily, I even found illegal drugs in the other house.  The drugs really made me realize that I was at war.  My Husband wasn’t a drug user.  So, I deleted/destroyed all the porn, and flushed ALL of the drugs down the toilet.  Ofcourse he was very upset, but I told him “I didn’t care how upset he was because I’m doing what’s best for you and drugs isn’t it.”  He no longer associated with the Godly men that were in our life and basically lived a life of isolation.  He lied to everyone and I become public enemy number one.  Oh during this time as well, the other woman activated a cell phone for my husband because I disconnected his cell phone.  I eventually went to the other woman’s Husband and notified him of the affair.  He also confronted my Husband at school, but my husband lied.  I know this woman has sent naked photos of herself to my husband.  She has sent vmail messages to myself and son’s cell phone about how much she loved and missed my husband.  Of course my husband denied that wasn’t her either.  The stress from my marriage has caused stress to my Sister-in-law who constantly remind my 40 year old (I’m 33 if it matters) husband that he is wrong for acting in this manner.  He now avoids anyone who wants to pray for him or will tell him he is wrong. 

    Within the past two weeks he moved out of other home into an apartment about 80 miles away from our martial home and got a new teaching job.  Initally, I was a little upset because he commits adultery, creates a huge mess and is granted the blessing to leave because now EVERYBODY knows about his adultery. His adultress has been telling everyone.  I cried out to God about how can he allow my Husband any good blessing with the adultery he committed?  God reminded me very clearly he is in charge and my job was to focus on my 3 sons and allow God to do his work.  I have focused every single day on walking in Love.  I even found myself (to my surprise) praying for the restoration of the adultresses marriage, and asking God to heal her. 

    This is still crazy to me, but I want to restore my marriage.  I believe divorce isn’t God’s best nor his plan for my marriage.  I’ve been praying and having a now faith because I already know the power of God and I believe!  I know my Husband was at a very low point in his life, which by no means excuses his adultery at ALL.  He will be responsible and accountable for his own actions!  My Husband was raised by parents who had God at the center of their everything.  My MIL was a prayer warrior and was a woman of great faith in God - she was totally unwavering! 

    With all that said, (sorry for being long-winded)  I’m asking for prayer:
    -My Husband’s first priority will be a relationship with our Father God and then with me as his wife.
    -My Husband is totally delivered from the stronghold spirit of adultery, lust, fornication, drugs, lying, and every other spirit that is not of God.
    -That our children aren’t damaged by our actions and are not left a legacy of divorce.
    -That I continue to Let Go and Let God work without interference. 
    -Restoration of my marriage, and my husband having a true repentance heart.
    -That I continue to flee from temptation/sin just as Joseph did when Pothiphar’s wife begged him to commit adultery with her.  (I was surprised at the influx of men paying attention to me, that it has become overwhelming but I’m still standing and will continue to remain faithful.  I know the enemy is trying to take me off course)
    -Above all else, God’s will be done!!!!

     

  2. MusicallyHIS
    Sr. Member
    FLORIDA
    114   Posts

    In complete agreement with your prayer requests sister. Yes, your husband has fallen down hard, so the most important thing now is that he seeks a relationship with our Father, which will in turn change him from the inside out. I must say also that this bitterness you have towards this other woman is also going to be used by the enemy to destroy you also. The enemy’s tactics have NEVER changed right from the garden of eden: DIVIDE AND CONQUER.  This woman will also be accountable to our Father and must reap what she has sown. This is worse than what man is able to do to us. So I pray for your healing as well. I THANK GOD THAT YOU RAN OUT OF THAT DIVORCE ATTORNEY’S OFFICE, AND THAT THOSE VOICES WOULDN’T QUIT. YOU SURELY SEE THE HAND OF GOD SO STRONGLY OVER THIS SITUATION. I ALSO THANK GOD IN YOUR PERSPECTIVE, YOU SEE THAT YOUR HUSBAND IS SICK, AND THAT THERE ARE MANY OTHER FACTORS INVOLVED HERE. SISTER I CAN FEEL GOD JUST SAYING THIS TO YOU; CONTINUE TO WALK IN MY GRACE AND MERCY, BEING THE WOMAN OF DIGNITY, MY DAUGHTER, WHO IS MY GOOD AND FAITHFUL SERVANT. ACT AGAINST, I SAY TO YOU AGAIN ACT AGAINST EVERY NEGATIVE EMOTION THAT ENTERS YOUR MIND AND SPEAK AGAINST IT. WHEN YOU WANT TO STRANGLE YOUR HUSBAND, WHO YOU THINK YOU MAY NOT EVEN KNOW ANYMORE, YOU PRAY FOR HIM INSTEAD. WHEN YOU WANT TO GIVE UP, START SINGING PRAISE SONGS TO OUR FATHER AND THANKING HIM THAT HIS HAND IS SO STRONGLY OVER YOU. WHEN YOU WANT TO CONFRONT, PUNISH, ETC, THAT OTHER WOMAN, YOU CAN BELIEVE THAT GOD OUR FATHER CONVICTS OUR SPIRITS STRONGER THAN ANY PERSON IS CAPABLE OF.PRAY FOR HER ALSO. OUCH. A HEART AND MIND CAN BE DESTROYED SO EASILY WITH HATRED AND BITTERNESS. IT REMINDS ME OF A DISEASE THAT SLOWLY EATS AT YOU LIKE A CANCER. YES, IT IS UGLY IN THAT WAY.
    LET’S AGREE IN PRAYER,
    FATHER I COME LIFTING UP MRS. PS TO YOU, HER HUSBAND, AND HER ENTIRE FAMILY. I ASK YOU FOR SPECIAL FAVOR AND A TOUCH FROM HEAVEN TO HEAL THESE OPEN WOUNDS. I ASK THAT YOU GIVE HER A PEACE THAT PASSES ALL UNDERSTANDING, AND THAT SHE WOULD KNOW THAT PEACE CAN ONLY COME FROM YOU. GOD I PLEAD THE BLOOD OF JESUS OVER HER HUSBAND. AT THE NAME OF JESUS, DEMONS AND SPIRITS MUST FLEE. I SPEAK THE NAME OF JESUS OVER THE SPIRIT OF LUST, FORNICATION,  DRUGS, LYING, DECEPTION, PORNOGRAPHY, AND ANYTHING THAT IS SECRETIVE IN THE DARK. FATHER GOD, WHERE YOUR LIGHT SHINES, THERE CANNOT BE DARKNESS ALSO!!!!!!!!!! TOUCH HER HUSBAND, I KNOW SHE LOVES HIM. GIVE HER STRENGTH AND HEALING AND ENDURANCE TO STAND IN THE GAP. I PLEAD THE BLOOD OF JESUS OVER THIS SISTER’S MIND, THAT ANY TEMPTATION OR DECEPTION WILL BE BROUGHT OUT SO IT CAN BE SEEN CLEARLY BY HER. I ASK THAT THE ATTENTION THAT SHE IS MISSING FROM HER HUSBAND, SHE WILL SEEK TO GET THAT ATTENTION FROM YOU GOD. THANK YOU FOR LOVING US SO MUCH THAT YOU CARE ABOUT EVERY DETAIL OF HER LIFE, ENOUGH TO LET THOSE VOICES CALL OUT IN THE ATTORNEY’S OFFICE! WOW WOW WOW IS ALL I CAN SAY ABOUT THAT! FATHER I EVEN ASK THAT YOU TOUCH THIS OTHER WOMAN’S HEART AND CONVICT HER. LET HER SEE HER WAYS AND REMOVE HER FAR AWAY FROM HIM AND THIS SITUATION. YOU ARE A JUST GOD, AND YOU ARE OUR JUDGE, JURY, LAWYER, DOCTOR, FRIEND, AND SO MUCH MORE. THANK YOU FATHER THAT THE BLOOD HAS NEVER LOST IT’S POWER. I PRAY ALL THIS IN THE NAME OF JESUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    AMEN!
    BE PRAYING FOR YOU SISTER. DON’T GIVE UP OR GIVE IN. GOD IS WITH YOU. HE’S SHOWN THAT TO YOU.
    WISHING MANY BLESSINGS TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY

     

  3. lori
    Sr. Member
    109   Posts

    AMEN, AMEN, AMEN!  I STAND IN AGREEMENT TOO!

     

  4. Carolyn Wuebbles
    Sr. Member
    Illinois
    1331   Posts

    I am so much in agreement with these prayers. i heard a voice telling me not to get married and I knew it was God, LATER! I am praying for this family, and agree with the prayers in the name of Jesus amen     and I also want to invite to you join us for daily teachings and also will answer letters when you write. We all need someone and I am here to help when I can. carolynwuebbles@yahoo.com Please feel free to contact me anytime. love ya

     

  5. p31woman2
    Member
    84   Posts

    Father God I stand in agreement with my sister for complete repentence and deliverance of the husband and restoration of their marriage.  I pray that You will continue to strengthen her faith and help her stay encouraged and on course.  Lord we ask that all the enemy has stolen will be fully restored.  We cancel all assignment of the enemy, every stronghold is coming down in the mighty name of Jesus. We give You all praise, glory and honor, amen.

     

  6. 143faith
    Newbie
    California
    16   Posts

    I am very much in agreement with u..this touched my heart. I am facing almost the same situatuion! Grace has gotten u this far & grace will help us to overcome this situatuion,  By his blood & stripes we are healed in his holy name.  No weapon formed against us shall prosper.  The devil is busy, we must stand strong and make sure we keep the blood line.  Sometimes we dont understand why we face these trials and tribulations, but just know that theyre part of the test and they make us stronger.  2 corintians 12:8-9.  In all that we go through we must give Gos the glory. U see praise confused the enemy.  It is sometimes hard to praise and put a smile on ur face when your heart is shattered, but when u think about the goodnes of Jesus & when u think about what he did on that cross, it helps u overcome all pain.  Shattered, but never broken!! I will too continue to pray for u the same prayer I pray for myself & together we will move these montains the devil had temporarily placed infront of us,,they shall soon be removed in Jesus name because are faith is as big as mustard seeds.

     

  7. Gladzone
    Newbie
    3   Posts

    I stand in agreement with this prayers, sister PS i thank God that you ran out from that office divorce is not of God, the bible says the devil came to kill, steal and to destroy, he has lost the battle already i encourage you to keep praying for your husband and forgive this strange woman and pray for her repentance too. Our Father will restore back your marriage and all the blessings and joy of your home for it is written in Joel 2:25 “So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten. Be strong in the LORD AND KNOW THAT SURELY THERE IS AN END.

    God bless you and your children. AMEN.

     

  8. Mrs. PS
    Newbie
    2   Posts

    All - many thanks for the prayers and taking time to read my lengthy post.  However, I ultimately decided after much prayer and thought that I am happily divorcing my Husband. 

    My sister always told me “Time has a way of revealing the truth!”  and she wasn’t lying.  So much (without me searching) has been revealed to me in a short period of time.  My Husband that I married is a person whom I don’t even know and frankly don’t like.  Every time I talk or see him I get sick and want to vomit.  I don’t love or care about him, and actually believe that his adultery has been a blessing in disguise for me.  I dumped ALL of me into my marriage and family.  I don’t regret any of it, but I realized that I lost so much of me.  Since my husband has been gone, I’ve enjoyed the peace that is over my house.  I realized he was the one bringing in confusion and chaos into our home.  I know who I am and what I’m capable of, and I can’t be with him ever again. 

    I’m ecstatic and at peace with my decision.  I believe this is the absolutely RiGHT decision I have made in 12 years since I’ve been with my husband.  I know God has greatness in store for me, but I won’t obtain it in this toxic marriage.  So I cut my loses and move on.  God has never foresaken me and I know HE will always be FAITHFUL to me no matter what the situation.

    Again, many thanks and God Bless you all.

     

  9. judywilson870@hotmail.com
    Newbie
    Rockville
    1   Posts

    I have prayed in agreement with you!!!!

     

  10. law1
    Newbie
    midwest
    2   Posts

    I stand is agreement.
    This is also my story and I thank God for this prayer.

     

  11. waitnforhim1906
    Newbie
    1   Posts
    Mrs. PS - 28 September 2010 09:47 AM

    All - many thanks for the prayers and taking time to read my lengthy post.  However, I ultimately decided after much prayer and thought that I am happily divorcing my Husband. 

    My sister always told me “Time has a way of revealing the truth!”  and she wasn’t lying.  So much (without me searching) has been revealed to me in a short period of time.  My Husband that I married is a person whom I don’t even know and frankly don’t like.  Every time I talk or see him I get sick and want to vomit.  I don’t love or care about him, and actually believe that his adultery has been a blessing in disguise for me.  I dumped ALL of me into my marriage and family.  I don’t regret any of it, but I realized that I lost so much of me.  Since my husband has been gone, I’ve enjoyed the peace that is over my house.  I realized he was the one bringing in confusion and chaos into our home.  I know who I am and what I’m capable of, and I can’t be with him ever again. 

    I’m ecstatic and at peace with my decision.  I believe this is the absolutely RiGHT decision I have made in 12 years since I’ve been with my husband.  I know God has greatness in store for me, but I won’t obtain it in this toxic marriage.  So I cut my loses and move on.  God has never foresaken me and I know HE will always be FAITHFUL to me no matter what the situation.

    Again, many thanks and God Bless you all.


    Amen sister, Divorce is not GOD’s plan for his children, but God wants his children to live in peace.  Whether you wanted to believe GOD to restore your situation or not, your @ peace with your decision…  There are plenty of christians out there that place their holy ghost opinion on others when people are going through things, I am not married but I have plenty of sisters in christ who chose to divorce their husbands for various reasons, and felt the church condemed them for choosing Divorce, needless to say, they are all doing well, and enjoying their walk with GOD, some have re-married and some chose to be single, it did not cut them of from GOD.  GOD saw the situation way before they came to that crossroad.  Nothing Shocks GOD, we all stand before him alone…. Continue to enjoy your relationship with GOD

     

  12. fwilli52
    Sr. Member
    New Orleans
    1244   Posts

    You are good and beautiful and intelligent and loved.

    “Lord, may I accept me for all that I am and focus on my goodness.”

     

  13. saffold
    Newbie
    milwaukee
    27   Posts

    GOOD MORNING,

    WOMAN OF GOD. I HAVENT BEEN TO THIS SITE IN MONTHS, BUT GOD LEAD ME HERE TO READ YOUR TOPIC. I FEEL YOUR PAIN. I FOUND OUT MY HUSAND COMMITTED ADULTERY ON THURDAY. ALL OF A SUDDEN HE JUST LEAVE FOR 27 HOURS NO CALL NOTHING.HE CAME HOME WITH DIFFERENT SHIRT. CLOTHES SMELLING LIKE SMOKE. I SAID WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN HE SAID OUT TRING TO GET SOME MONEY. ANYWAYS DENIED OUT SLEEPING WITH SOMEONE SAYS HE SLEPT IN HIS TRUCK. I KNOW THAT WAS A LIE.  I WOULD LIKE FOR YOU TO EMAIL ME SO THAT WE CAN TOUCH AND AGREE FOR OUR HUSBANDS. I KNOW THIS IS FROM GOD. PLEASE CALL ME OR SEND ME YOUR EMAIL. WE HAVE TO GO INTO SPIRITUAL WARFARE.FOR OUR HUSBANDS THEY HAVE SOME LUST SPIRITS. I SEEN THE THE PORN VIDEOS ON MY COMPUTER ALSO. CALL ROBIN 414 416 7148 OR VIRTOUS1@GMAIL.COM LOOK FORWARD TO HEARING FROM YOU GOD BLESS YOU .

     

     
 
‹‹ heart broke again      FRIENDS?????? ››